What you think vs. How it feels

shantal wilsonYou were dying to finish secondary school and start college, then you were dying to finish college and start university next you were dying to finish university and start working.

Now that you have started working you find yourself asking is this I’ve been "dying" for?

Everything always seems better and easier when you are not doing it yourself, as humans we are often very hard to please, and at times we believe that the grass is greener on the other side, until you are actually on the other side!

At university, being a student and studying always seemed difficult or boring at times especially during summer period and it is that all important exam season, the sun is out and everyone else is outside enjoying the sunshine while you’re inside revising for your much anticipated exams, you find yourself saying:

“I can’t wait to finish university and start working, then I’ll be earning my own money, I can start enjoying my life and do whatever I want.”

Truth be told, being a student is possibly the most freedom you will ever get in your life time because once you’ve start your first job, your time and your life no longer belongs to you. Sure, saying it like this may seem a bit morbid, but it is the truth and sometimes the truth is not always cheerful.

Your first job is never what you dreamt it up to be...

As humans we are also great fantasists, in our mind we may envision what we think our work lives are going to be or should be (I would know as I am guilty of doing that myself). We often tend to create this preconceived idea in our heads, that the moment we start working we’re suddenly in a position to make big decisions or have great power.

In actual fact, you have to work your way up to the top just like everybody else, and prove that your work ethic is up to standard. Before you know it, you’re working what seems to be long hours during summer, watching everyone else enjoying that sunshine. Suddenly your whole life revolves around your job, you no longer have time for long social calls or to meet up with friends because, as you get home you’re exhausted and all you want to do is curl up in bed and sleep to be ready for tomorrow. As for the weekend, it seems to go by so quickly, you barely have the time to fully enjoy it, as well as catch up on that well deserved rest.

Somewhere along the way, you think “was this really what I was dying for?

The answer to that is simple YES! No matter how stressful university life was, or how boring studying may have been or how you felt that you’ve missed out on great activities on and off campus, the bottom line is you would never trade all of that experience for anything - and how could you, take a look at what you’ve achieved.

Yes you may have to start from the bottom and work your way up to the top, but it can only get better; this is only the beginning!

After you’ve worked so hard at university have, struggled through the recruitment process and landed your first role - don’t take it for granted you need to give yourself that time to learn and grow. Just stick with it!


Jamaican born Shantal Wilson moved to the UK at the age of 10. As of 2013, Shantal is Coventry University alumni, graduating with a 2:1 degree in Business and Marketing, and is currently employed as a Marketing Assistant at Pirtek UK.

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